I work extensively with couples, using an educational approach. This means we will address the issues you have now but I will also help you gain skills for new ways of relating that you can apply to other concerns in the future. Many people have old habits and can benefit from learning new patterns that will improve intimacy generally. A course of work with me on Relationship Development, is an investment for the long-term if you want to go beyond immediate problems. (see below for package discount)
My background includes special training in communications based on a research program called "Relationship Enhancement" by Bernard Guerney at Pennsylvania State University. This very practical and successful approach involves learning concepts and skills for listening with empathy and expressing thoughts and feelings effectively, along with conflict management and negotiating skills. See their 10 Relationship Enhancement® Skills on the website for the National Institute of Relationship Enhancement, where I am a provider. I also use material from Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Compassion, by Marshall Rosenberg, and have had training in that approach.
Marlene saved our marriage. Unbeknownst to me, we had drifted apart in our relationship and was feeling bewildered and resentful when we showed up at her couch. Through gentle, dry humor, she made me feel at ease with the process. But the proof is that we are now closer than ever and feeling confident about our future together. She combines teaching about the theory (in our case about communication and seeing each other's point of view) with actual practice so that we can learn how to handle issues as they crop up rather than waiting until we had another session.
• Julie A., Berkeley, CA, 2/10/2009
Marlene is wonderful with couples. My partner and I started seeing Marlene in a time of crisis and she really helped us work it through; now our relationship is stronger than ever. One of the key elements of her work is training couples in how to communicate effectively. Marlene works with couples so that each member learns not only how to express what s/he feels and needs but also to hear what the other feels and needs (she even gives you exercises so you can practice at home!). This tool has been invaluable for us. Also, my partner and I have both discovered that this form of communication has real benefits on how we communicate with other people, at work and in our social circles. I highly recommend Marlene!
• Lee T., Berkeley, CA, 2/16/2009
When we were at a difficult point in our relationship, Marlene brought issues into perspective and worked with us to develop better communication skills. She also worked with me one on one and in a "Monster Wrangling Group" to address negative patterns in my own life. We've become a stronger couple and I'm a happier person. Highly recommended!
She helped us learn empathic communication techniques and work on really "hearing" each other. Week by week she helped us navigate the way back to a healthy, rewarding relationship. I particularly liked the "homework" and assigned reading that my partner and I did together. I don't have enough good words for her. Thanks Marlene!
My husband and I began going to her when my son was 7 months old and we needed to do everything we could to save our rocky marriage for baby's sake. The last 5 months have been extremely helpful in terms of lowering the number of fights we have in general and in front of our chidren, and also has helped us feel stronger as a family and as happier individuals. She is skilled at overcoming communication problems because she gave us the tools to overcome communication blocks ourselves, so that in the future, we now know how to solve these issues on our own. I cannot give enough praise for marlene winell as an excellent couples' therapist/speech therapist/psychologist for all the hats that she wears and all the knowledge and experience she utilized to help us save our marriage.
Parenting and Family Development
I also have extensive experience with family dynamics, adolescent issues, and parenting skills. I help parents learn concepts and skills and apply them at home between sessions. Telephone consultation is available as a "parenting coach." This service is a supplement for families in therapy or for parents at a distance who cannot meet in person.
Relationship Development fees, with sliding scale
Rates for single sessions:
Income: under $35K/YR: $125/hour, $180/hour and a half
Income: $35K - $80K/YR: $140/hour, $205/hour and a half
Income: above $80K/YR: $155/hour, $225/hour and a half
10-Session Package (for cost of 9 sessions: Initial 1.5 hour + 8 hours)
Income: under $35K/YR: $1180 ($125 off)
Income: $35K - $80K/YR: $1325 ($140 off)
Income: above $80K/YR: $1465 ($155 off)
*Additional $50 discount available if entire package paid up front. Otherwise, payments can be made at sessions, with final session free.